Treating Paternal Postpartum Depression with ACT and EMDR

Postpartum depression (PPD) is commonly associated with mothers. Still, many fathers also experience significant mood disturbances following the birth of a child. Paternal postpartum depression (PPPD) is an underrecognized yet serious condition. It can affect both the father and the family dynamic. While traditional treatments such as talk therapy and medication can be helpful, some men may benefit from alternative therapeutic approaches. These generally include Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).

Understanding Paternal Postpartum Depression

Paternal postnatal depression (PPND) can manifest as sadness, irritability, withdrawal from family life, increased stress, and even feelings of inadequacy or failure as a parent. Unlike maternal PPD, which is often linked to hormonal changes, PPPD is primarily driven by external stressors. Such as sleep deprivation, role shifts, and psychological factors like unresolved trauma or personal history with mental health struggles. Many men are conditioned to suppress emotions and avoid seeking help. Consequently, their symptoms may go unnoticed or dismissed as typical new-parent stress.

How ACT Can Help Fathers with PPPD

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is a behavioral therapy. It helps individuals manage distress by fostering psychological flexibility. Instead of trying to eliminate painful thoughts and feelings, ACT teaches fathers to accept them while committing to actions aligned with their values. Key components of ACT for PPPD include:

• Mindfulness Practices. Fathers learn to observe their thoughts and emotions without judgment. This reduces emotional reactivity and anxiety.

• Cognitive Defusion. This technique helps fathers detach from negative self-beliefs (e.g., "I'm a terrible father"). Instead, it helps them view these beliefs as passing thoughts rather than facts.

• Values-Based Living. ACT encourages fathers to identify core parenting values, such as patience, presence, or love. It also encourages them to commit to actions that align with those values. Even when experiencing distress.

• Self-Compassion. Many men struggle with feelings of failure or inadequacy as new fathers. ACT fosters self-compassion. This helps them approach challenges with kindness rather than self-criticism.

At my Illinois therapy clinic, I've found ACT particularly effective for men who feel overwhelmed by their emotions. It's also beneficial for those who struggle with rigid thinking patterns that contribute to depressive symptoms.

EMDR for Trauma-Related PPPD

Some fathers experience PPPD as a result of unresolved trauma. Whether from childhood experiences, a medically complicated childbirth process, or previous mental health struggles. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a trauma-focused therapy. It can help fathers process distressing memories that contribute to their depression. EMDR uses bilateral stimulation (such as guided eye movements) to help the brain reprocess traumatic memories. In turn, this reduces their emotional intensity. In the context of PPPD, EMDR can help fathers:

• Address past traumas that may be triggered by new-parent stress.

• Process distressing childbirth experiences, including fears about the health of the baby or partner.

• Reduce feelings of inadequacy or guilt related to fatherhood.

• Strengthen a sense of self-worth and emotional resilience.

Seeking Help and Reducing Stigma

Many fathers hesitate to seek help for PPPD. This is generally due to the stigma surrounding men’s mental health. However, treatments like ACT and EMDR provide structured, effective ways to manage symptoms and improve well-being. By acknowledging their struggles and seeking professional support, fathers can cultivate healthier emotional coping strategies. They can also strengthen their relationships and become more present, engaged parents. If you or someone you know is struggling with PPPD, reaching out to a therapist trained in ACT or EMDR can be a powerful step toward recovery.

Start Working With an EMDR Therapist in Illinois

If you feel like you’re experiencing paternal postpartum depression, you don’t have to face it alone. Reach out to us at Shapiro Psychotherapy Associates PLLC to find out if ACT or EMDR therapy is the right approach for you. Here’s how:

• Schedule an appointment with Shapiro Psych.

• Work with an experienced PPND therapist.

• Embrace fatherhood with support and encouragement.

Other Services Offered by Shapiro Psychotherapy Associates, PLLC in Des Plaines, Illinois

At Shapiro Psych, I offer various therapy services alongside Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy. I’m also pleased to offer Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Mindfulness-based Stress Reduction (MBSR), and therapy for self-esteem and confidence. I have extensive therapeutic experience and specialized training in multiple therapy modalities, and I always aim to customize my approach to the specific needs of each client. Connect with my office today to begin your journey toward a happier, more fulfilling life.